Monday, May 29, 2006

Maturity and Independence

It’s been a while I haven’t updated David’s site, particularly on his milestones. I can hardly cope up so, I might just jot down here briefly what he has been up to before things landed in the island of forgets.

Little Manners:
Yes, he has learned to say “Merci”, “Pardon”, “Please”, “Bonjour”, “A demain”, “Au revoir” at the right moment and situation. And the latest which happened two weekends ago was, “it’s ok“. He still says “solee” which means “sorry” and does it often times when he gets shouted at for doing prohibited things.

Mispronunciation of counting:
One, two, three, four, fak, sex, seven, it, nine, ten. You might wonder what is the “fak and sex” all about. No we don’t display profanity in front of David, it is just that he mixes up the number five and cinq (French of five, pronounced sank) and he counts fak.

Rituals and habits:
I don’t have to fight with him when it’s time for a nap or night sleep. Although at times he does say “no sleep mama”. I bring him milk to his bed, say goodnight to all his beloved bears and blanket, give each one of them a kiss and leave. He goes to sleep without a fuss. At night, when he is really tired, he is the one who grabs my hand and say, “sleep mama”, that is before he tells me “brush teeth dadi (david)”.
He loves to take shower than bath. And goes exclaiming under the stream of water “like papa, like mama”.
He knows that after his afternoon nap and it’s sunny outside, it’s playground time. In the morning when he wakes up, he goes to our bed and says “bonjour”, throws in all the security bears, climbs up next to us and have a cuddle.

Sense of smell matured na?
This is quite gross. I was debating of putting it in my blog because it might be nosily offensive to the reader. But here I am anyway, mainly because I don’t want to forget the timing and the event.
For almost two years my toilet affairs have become public. David would be either playing with the toilet paper, flashing the water while I’m still in the middle of business or he would be sitting on my lap reading books. Two weeks before he reached 26 months old, he actually was disgusted while I was sitting on the seat, he almost puked! LOL! LOL! LOL! Since then he leaves the toilet door open and would just be happy looking at me few feet away. Well, I admit, I’m still doing it with an audience but at least I don’t have to fight against the wondering tiny hands pulling down the rolls.

Friendly to strangers
I used to laugh when David was calling every man we saw on the street “dadou”. Now he says “monsieur, woman, girl, fille, garcon, boy”. And he is much, much at ease with strangers greeting them with “bonjour or au revoir”. And he is totally “makulit” in front of his ninangs, ninongs, titas and titos. Gone is the crying baby.

And . . .
We are nowhere near the potty. At all. He doesn’t talk very well yet, but we understand mostly what he is saying or asking. Short phrases, broken sentences. For some reason, he loves to read books well advance for his age, like the solar system where he goes hyper saying “sun”, “soleil”, “stars”, “étoiles” and of course, he adores ET. And likes flipping through travel guide books, “reading” maps and is fascinated by weather forecasts. He is learning musical instruments and pretends to conduct imitating little einsteins (the dvd). My only problem is I’m poor at recognizing and naming musical stuff, like saxophone and trumpets and whatever things cylindrical with an exaggerated mouthpiece, they are all the same to me. Just trumpet. I actually have to search the net and memorize all these things. Well, at least I’m sort of educating myself.

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Sunday, May 28, 2006

Bonne Fête à toutes les mamans

Here are my two kids: one small, one big :o)
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Friday, May 26, 2006

pangandoy ko ni, mayaman ako para kanunay byahe ang byuti nako

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Monday, May 22, 2006

It’s Okay

The screaming of my sleeping son pulled me out of my scrapping work late Friday night. I thought for a minute it was one of those nightmare episodes. But as I and dadou hovered over his bed, I knew something was wrong. He was in a delirium of which mama was the only word we understood. As I gathered him in my arms I felt his temperature very high and his little body trembling of cold. The suddenness of this event completely caught me off guard. We’ve spent a good day playing together, singing, dancing, building things and jumping around like monkeys. And few hours later, he was crying and sobbing in my arms. Much as I wanted to hold him there forever the cramps were unbearable and I had to pass him to Dadou. I hardly reached a meter away and Dadou freaked out; David was vomiting all over the place. As I took him back, he was screaming, choking, coughing. Although I totally panicked I search comfort to the knowledge that he does this thing when he cries too much. But then again this time it was different. He’s got a fever.
I don’t recall how I managed to undress myself out of the puked clothes whilst David clinging so hard to me. The next many hours promised an episode of restlessness, of looking for that particular place where he would be comfortable. As the medicine silently taking effect, lying down together in our bed, his back pressed to mine, he took my hand and put it over him, body quietly trembling, whimpering into his dreams “mama, mama”. I struggled not to fall asleep, praying to my guardian angels to give me more of an extra strength that would last me until the morning. I whispered a hundred times into his ears “it’s okay David, mama is here”. Hoping he would find comfort in those words and oblivious to the weariness of my voice, of the unusual beating of my heart that spoke of fear, uncertainty and exhaustion.
The following day shaded a bit of light, although all three of us wore purplish eyes and functioned with rugged mobility. When David felt fine, it was like a celebration, there’s a hint of extra joy and love to our shared laughter. A triumph. And as he started feeling sick again, I heard him say “it’s okay bebe, it’s okay blanket”.
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Update on the flying plant

Our neighbour came knocking at our door late Friday afternoon to get his plant back. Dadou has told me already not to open the door because he wanted to talk to them first. I opened anyway and told the guy to come back later tonight. I waited for an apology. Nothing. He said he won’t be home at night since he’s working. I told him to come back the following day. He did when we were having lunch.
Of course the scenario was unpleasant. Dadou’s voice was cold. Much as he tried to compose himself I could sense a hint of anger. Dadou emphasized on their irresponsibility of which the guy replied he knows the implication of the word since he is a boss of a company. Dadou retorted back saying that he obviously lacks of civil responsibility as he puts others’ lives in danger and went on reading to the guy the laws.

In short, this thing has been settled. The guy understood (hopefully) that next time if there are things falling from their balcony that would risk our safety, Dadou will go directly to the police. We’ve filed a formal complain to the Mairie already with the photos attached. Although it’s common in France to have a concierge in a residence, ours doesn’t have any. It’s up to our neighbours now to understand our letter of request to get rid of their plants hanging directly on our balcony and to understand the law attached therein.

 

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Friday, May 19, 2006

Honestly, what would you do if this happens to you?

This is David playing in our balcony last week.

Today we woke up to this sight!

Because our neighbors upstairs put their plants like this:

And take note, after their tree fell down on our balcony, the neighboring plants on the table are still there. And take note again, we’ve been asking all the neighbors above to remove their plants that hang directly on our heads. What would you do if this thing happens to you?

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Thursday, May 18, 2006

You ought to get scared!


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Friday, May 12, 2006

Love is…

To my brother bajolet whose role in life becomes that of a daddy and a mommy … “Happy Mother’s Day!”
and to all the mothers out there….. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

Note: Sorry I have to remove the photo I attached here before, there’s a problem displaying it. But you can view it here.

 

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Thursday, May 11, 2006

Bomb

He has the patience that measures to a toothpick and mine is getting even shorter than that. I’d like to blame it to the successive rainy days and being forced to be confined indoor. He is like a walking bomb set to explode every minute. Everything is a detonator. He goes shrieking madly. Piercing sound that goes through walls. When he gets so frustrated he puts his two hands in his mouth. Comforting him is next to impossible. He throws himself on the floor. If I leave him alone, he calls for me over and over. Often I let him be, giving him time to calm down, taking myself time to cool off too. And then he starts all over again. There are times I find myself staring at blank walls and listening to little monsters. Then a migraine. Another shriek!
I search for a rationalization to this new kind of tantrum. I found just one that convinces me. A molar tooth. Is it enough for an explanation? Enough rationale for this disconcerting behaviour? If only I don’t suffer from migraine…
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Tuesday, May 9, 2006

Of conformity and diversity

Reading the comments on my previous post, I can’t help myself reassessing how conformity and diversity have shaped the person I am now. The Philippines is a very diverse society in itself. And for more than a decade I grew up in an even more diverse community – it even had and still has the slogan “the melting pot….”
Everyday I was surrounded by Filipinos wearing different costumes, speak different dialects and behave in manners different than mine. Often times we got along, many times there were contradictions. And thinking now I realized most of the time I conformed. Yes, I dressed and displayed some mannerisms like the majority even if it wasn’t what my family believed in. Because it was the only way to live safely and be able to finished my studies for free.  
A three-year-study abroad, I again faced with diversity. This time I came to live with people from different countries, beliefs and traditions. This was a different experience because I felt not anymore a minority among my own people but a person of the world. It was living in this country that I felt the strength of my true identity as a Filipino. People conformed to the general status quo and at the same time maintaining their own identity. Nothing is more satisfying than to live in harmony with different people.
When I went back to the Philippines and landed a job in Manila, I had awkward and uncomfortable experiences. I don’t speak perfect Tagalog and many times it was the subject of mockery, mimicking a TV personality speaking Tagalog in a “bisaya way”. I’ve lived long enough in Manila
to know that some Tagalog people can be discriminating and prejudicial. I even went to a job interview and was asked point-blank about my religion, just because the personal background on my CV suggested something out of the ordinary. Indeed, there are times when your own people can inflict in you so much hurt and frustrations.
Out of these experiences, I am consciously aware of being different. Heck, each member of my family is different. Two parents, six siblings, nine different personalities. My husband sometimes joke that it’s like each one of us is born from different parents. And I agree. We are just totally different growing up in the same foundation. And it’s like crazy, funny and amazing in so many ways.
But living abroad away from the comfort of your family, being different can be lonely. I went out, seek social groups and try to integrate in the current society. The more I try, the more I appreciate my being different. But I conform more often than I would like to. I now wear the “French face” and long every day for the easy smile of my country given so freely. I wasn’t surprised when the French government passed a law prohibiting students going to public schools wear things that suggest their religious propensities. My child eventually will have to conform too when the day comes.
So yes I have conformed, I agreed, disagreed, followed and disobeyed. I’ve become a diverse person on my own. Once, a friend told me that after getting used to see me with our tagalog friends, my personality changed completely when I was talking to my bisaya friends. Like I was a different person. And I realized such changes are a product of long years of being in various social environments. I just had to learn to adapt. To survive. To appreciate. To grow.
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